I didn't write this yesterday for Mother's Day. I didn't post my thoughts on FB. I didn't want to. I honestly didn't know what to say.
I miss my mom.
Those four words seem so trivial compared to my actual feelings. But I do... I miss her... terribly.
In the moments after her passing three and a half years ago, I remember thinking, "Who am I without my mother?" I meant it. I didn't know. Every single thing I'd ever been through in my life, my mother had been there, both good and bad. Even when we lived in different hemispheres, she was there, and when she left, I was terrified I would fall a part. She was the bravest woman I'd ever known, and I was desperate for her courage to plant itself firmly inside me so I could hold myself together.
One of my sisters posted a picture of her on FB yesterday, and I found myself staring at it for long periods of time throughout the day. She was so beautiful. It's been said before, and it will be said again, but I can't believe she's gone. It doesn't make any sense. I can still hear her. I can still smell her. I can still feel her hugs and how she fit perfectly right underneath my chin. Her laugh still makes me smile, and her adorable accent is still fresh in my mind. Her heart and its ability to love remain unparalleled. How is she not here?
My son was only a year and a half when she passed, but he remembers her, and not just from pictures or stories, her memory lives in him. He remembers her laugh, her songs, and how much she loved him. Oh, did she love him. He used to rub her bald head and giggle uncontrollably, and he had the innate ability to make her smile, even at the very end when she found it too difficult to breathe. That was a relationship that death couldn't touch. It is ingrained in him, and I am so thankful for that.
I was pregnant with my daughter when she died, and it kills me that she'll never know her, but the crazy thing is, I see so much of my mother in my baby girl. When she was born, just 4 months after my mom left to be with God, I thought the resemblance might have just been my longing to see her again, but no. She's there. My daughter has her spirit, her spunk, her forehead... truly... it's the exact same, and when I hold her, I can't help but feel closer to my mother, too.
Now, after all these years, I know who I am, and I am no longer afraid. I know I am never without my mom. She is my foundation and my rock. She is in my smile, in my tears, in my temper, and in my hope. When I dance, I know she dances in Heaven, and I love her. For who she was, for who she will always be.
Happy Mother's Day, Mama.
I miss you!